Gustavo & Friends
I didn’t grow up with a mentor or any solid role models, and looking back, I realize how much that impacted me. Growing up in a challenging environment, I often had to figure things out on my own. But I always knew I wanted to give back—especially to younger people—because I didn’t want them to go through the same struggles I did.
In college, I was a mentor for first-generation students, guiding freshmen and helping them adjust. I enjoyed it and felt that mentoring was something I could do long-term. Through my fraternity, I mentored seven young men from their sophomore to senior years, and to this day, they still reach out if they need advice or support. These experiences showed me how powerful mentorship can be—it’s not just about providing guidance; it’s about being there for someone through life’s highs and lows. When I commit to something, I’m in it for the long haul. That’s why mentoring is so important to me—it’s about making a real, lasting impact.
Years later, I moved to San Francisco and was introduced to Friends for Youth by a friend who was part of the program. She spoke highly of it, so I decided to give it a try. I became a mentor in 2023, and since then, I’ve been matched with two incredible mentees: Guero (Ellian) and David.
When I first met Guero in January 2024, we didn’t have that instant connection, but we worked through it. Through sports, birthday parties, and just showing up when he needed me, we built trust. Now, he’s a senior, applying to colleges, and he’s become so dedicated to his future. I’m amazed at how much he’s grown. When we were first matched he expressed his interest in going to the gym. He wasn't that into it at first, but now he’s passionate about it and has developed the discipline he needs to succeed in life. His excitement for his future is infectious, and I’m so proud of how far he’s come– I know he’s going to go so far.
David’s journey was a little different. When I first met him, he was a sophomore, and it seemed like he needed an extra push to figure out what came next after high school. It was clear that he hadn’t fully understood the importance of planning ahead. But when he realized I wasn’t going to just let him coast, and that he wanted more for himself, he really stepped up. He became more focused, and now he’s committed to playing baseball at college, with plans to transfer to a four-year school. His maturity and motivation have grown so much since we first met. He’s also realized that it takes time and resources to get where he wants to go, and he’s ready to put in the work.
We’ve shared some great moments together. Guero and I really enjoy playing pickleball, and sometimes we all hang out, including David, and grab a meal afterward. It's great seeing them both grow, and I’m so proud of the way they support each other. David and Guero’s schools are close by, so I love seeing them hang out even when I’m not around. They’ve developed a camaraderie that is just as special as the bond I share with each of them.
Through the program, I’ve also had the opportunity to connect with their families. I first met David’s family at parent meetings when he was a sophomore. They appreciated the support I gave him, and I even went to his baseball games. For Guero, I met his mom at his birthday party, and she really embraced me as part of their support system. I’ve always been available to talk to their families—especially their Spanish-speaking parents—and I know they appreciate knowing their children are in good hands.
Mentoring has changed me in ways I didn’t expect. It’s taught me to be more self-aware, to pause before speaking, and to appreciate the small things. I’ve learned as much from my mentees as they have from me. They've shown me the importance of staying in touch with my inner child—of not taking life too seriously and appreciating the people around me.
Looking ahead, I’m excited for what the future holds for Guero and David. They both have big dreams, and I plan to be there for them every step of the way. Guero is awaiting college decisions, and David is about to embark on his baseball journey, also in college. I’ve already marked their graduations on my calendar, and I’m looking forward to celebrating their successes.
Mentoring is about so much more than just offering advice. It’s about being there for someone, guiding them through life’s challenges, and celebrating their growth. It's about showing up when it counts and being someone they can count on, no matter what. That's why mentoring is so important—it’s a gift that keeps giving. When I mentor, I don’t just help my mentees succeed; I’m also growing with them. I’ll always be there for Guero and David—long after the formal program ends. I’m in it for the long haul.
Favorite overall FFY memory or event?
Classico, without a doubt. I love sports, and soccer is one of my favorites. Mentor mixers are also a highlight for me. They offer a chance to meet other mentors, share advice, and ask questions. It’s important to grow both as a mentor and as an individual, and these events really facilitate that exchange of knowledge and support.
What moves you about our mission and why is it so important?
The mission is meaningful because it ensures every mentorship is intentional. The program has a deep understanding of underserved communities, and that awareness is crucial. You don’t want to create a false sense of hope or waste anyone’s time. The way FFY approaches mentorship is both thoughtful and effective, which makes a real difference for both mentors and mentees.
How has FFY’s support (case management, staff interactions) made a difference in your mentoring journey?
The support from FFY has been crucial in creating a sense of belonging. The staff is always encouraging, which fosters an environment where both mentors and mentees can thrive. Events that bring families together allow them to witness the positive impact of mentorship, and it’s reassuring for both the youth and their families to know that they have a strong support network.
What advice would you give to someone who is considering becoming a mentor but is unsure?
Just do it. There’s nothing to lose and everything to gain. If you come into it with the right mindset and put your energy into the relationship, it will make a positive impact. You’ll be amazed at how much you can learn and grow from the experience.
“The most rewarding part of mentoring is seeing the growth, not just in my mentees, but in myself as well.”